Erectile dysfunction, also known as ED or impotence, is the inability to get an erection or to maintain an erection for sexual intercourse.

Premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction characterized by: ejaculation that always occurs before or within one minute of vaginal penetration and/or the inability to delay ejaculation with vaginal penetration. This is embarrassing to the man and frustrating to the woman.   Quite often it causes the initiation or avoidance of sexual intimacy.

Performance anxiety is a form of psychogenic ED, usually caused by just the thought of either not becoming erect, maintaining an erection or performing sexually in a satisfactory manner. Both of these cause embarrassment, humiliation and wanting to avoid sexually intimacy.

We are going to only discuss the emotional or psychogenic causes of ED – rather than high blood pressure, occluded arteries, chronic alcoholism, Type II diabetes, obesity, certain medications, old age and or other physical or organic problems. It’s estimated that 35% to 50% suffer from ED.

Specifically we will address ED in men from the age of 20 year of age and into their thirties, forties, fifties and sixties.  This article will be dealing with the number one cause of ED and that generally stems from an incident where the man failed to maintain an erection or where he was not able to ejaculate during sexual intercourse. The incident brought about a lack of confidence and a fear of failure. Depression, anxiety and stress are huge factors in ED and PE. Hypnotherapy is extremely effective in mitigating and moving past those emotional issues.

When a boy is 12 years, or 14 years old his sexual equipment always works with never a thought or doubt. Why is that? It’s because there is no pressure on him to perform. And… he always gets an erection until the first time that he doesn’t. That is generally when he’s in his twenties or beyond.

Sometimes an 8, 10 or 14 year old boy has an erection when he doesn’t even want to have an erection. He might be just sitting in church or school and without any sexual thoughts or stimulation, he has an erection.

But what happens when he wants an erection and doesn’t get one? He always was able to have an erection before. Why can’t he get one now? The problem is that he remembers the humiliation, emasculation and embarrassment from Erectile Dysfunctions or ED that he has had in the past. He often thinks about those failures whenever he attempts to have sex again and every time thereafter. The doubt is always there and that keeps him from performing sexually.

Those memories and doubts can be erased through hypnotherapy sessions. Generally weekly sessions of hypnotherapy will yield the best results and restore the man to being able to perform without fear.

ED is not rare; in fact it is very common.  The Massachusetts Male Aging Study revealed that in a population of otherwise healthy men aged 40 to 70 years, 52% of these men regularly suffered from ED.  Further It was estimated that, in 1995, over 152 million men worldwide experienced ED.  Of course some of that was from advancing age and the body’s deterioration from old age or illnesses. For 2025, the prevalence of ED is predicted to be approximately 322 million men worldwide.

Other studies show that ED affects about 50 percent of men over the age of 40 and becomes even more common as men age.

The psychological causes of ED and PE for men in their 30s can include:

• Sexual performance anxiety
• Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD)
• Relationship issues
• Depression
• Fear

The Cleveland Clinic estimates that it’s normal to have trouble getting or keeping an erection for up to 20 percent of all sexual encounters.

Psychogenic means psychological or emotionally based ED and PE. It is more common among men in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Sexual performance anxiety and relationships problems exacerbate and can cause this sexual dysfunction condition. Other causes of ED in the 30s can include unhealthy lifestyle habits such as obesity and drug and/or alcohol abuse.

Just as Hypnotherapy has worked for weight loss, insomnia, smoking cessation, premature ejaculation and so many more issues, it is the most effective and efficient way to move past Erectile Dysfunction.

Dr. Bob Crow is board certified in clinical and medical hypnotherapy. He has an earned Ph.D. in both Behavioral Sciences and Psychology. He has been working with and helping men with ED and PE issues for 25 years.

After practicing for over twenty five years, we have both came to the conclusion that many if not most parents, are not good at parenting! This is not to say that they are not good people, just not good parents.  Where did they learn parenting anyway? Most likely from their parents! And their parents learned it from their parents, and it would be a miracle if any of them knew how to parent their child correctly!

Rarely do we have an adult or pediatric patient come in for therapy, that hasn’t been damaged or thoroughly messed up by their parents.

Do the parents screw up their kids intentionally? We would like to believe in most cases not. But if the parent was emotionally, sexually or physically abused when they were a child, and they never received the proper healing therapy, unfortunately they might visit their issues onto their own children.

An abused child will have low self esteem and be devoid of confidence and self assuredness unless mitigated by a really good hypnotherapist, not just a conventional “talk” therapist. That’s one of the reasons that many abused individuals embrace Gen Z.

The memories ofabusive or of harmful events are stored in the cognitive maps of the child’s subconscious mind and remain there until and unless they are dealt with by a hypnotherapist that really knows what they are doing.  

Saying “ who do you think you are?“ implies that they aren’t as good, talented, smart or whatever as the child thinks they are. That careless remark takes away confidence, self assuredness and self esteem. They will carry that feeling of inadequacy with them forever unless an excellent hypnotherapist can enable them to move past that negative talk. “Why did you do that?” is as useless as “who do you think you are?” Most often a child doesn’t have a clue why he does something because the prefrontal cortex hasn’t developed yet. The pre frontal cortex is our command and control center.

With girls the prefrontal cortex is pretty well developed by the age of twenty – in boys and men it is closer to thirty two years of age! Some think that with men it’s forty five!!!

I wish that we could visit with potential parents before they have a child. They might not want to hear this, but being a parent may require more time and effort than they thought that it would, and that they are able and or willing to devote to it. What is their priority – career or raising a child. It is really hard to do an excellent job of both simultaneously.

Isn’t it interesting that in order to be a manicurist, a barber or a welder, one has to take a test and get a license? But what kind of license is required to raise a child? None!

Many parents are honestly too busy to parent and raise a child. We’re not being sarcastic when we say that, but it takes time for the “little but important things”. It is not easy what with the everyday hustle and bustle of today’s life problems  and careers, and it can be difficult to take the time to answer that young developing mind’s questions. They might be too busy with or be too distracted with their career  to be a great parent.

Some might feel that the answer is a Nanny. But if that Nanny is not of the same intellectual and social economic level as the parents are, then there will be potential problems. Some Nannies might be excellent caregivers but may not even have graduated from high school in the United States or may not be emotionally, intellectually and culturally equipped to be a substitute parent! I had two parents come to see me, both of them were medical doctors who had three children. The parents were highly educated with college and medical school degrees.

They lived in Buckhead, a suburb of Atlanta on a street named Tuxedo Drive – one of the most expensive addresses in Atlanta. In the course of their interview I asked them where the son lived and how was he able to pay rent since he refused to work? They explained that their son lived in an apartment in their home. I asked them how big was the son’s apartment? They said “not that big, a little over 3000 square feet.” I thought 3000 square feet? Wow! (Of course their mansion was 40,000 square feet!) I asked if they charged him rent and they said “of course not… he’s our son.”

I asked them how he could make car payments and they replied that they had given him a Land Rover and a Lamborghini. “What does he do for spending money?” I inquired? We give him a salary of $4000 a month. “What does he have to do for that salary?” They were embarrassed to answer… nothing.

I then asked them “why should he work?” When they didn’t answer I said, “That is not a rhetorical question.” “But why should he work?” You see their son suffered no negative consequences for his not going to college, not working and not helping his parents in their business. Their son never had to do anything that he didn’t want to do. Ever!

They asked me if I could help their son? Regretfully, I had to honestly answer “I’d like to, but no! You have allowed him to develop non productive habits and have ruined him by not allowing him to take responsibility for either his actions or his lack of actions.” “He believes that he is entitled to have whatever he wants out of life WITHOUT working for it! He believes that he is entitled.

You have taught him that life is a free ride.” “It is not!” “I cannot undo over a quarter of a century of complete permissiveness and entitlement.” A person will not make behavioral change they don’t want to make and he doesn’t see the need for or want to make any changes in his life. He’s like a worm that lives in a rotten piece of fruit – he’s already content!

Moving along if a child WANTS a dog, it has to be their responsibility to feed the dog, clean up after it and walk it… rain or shine or cold – this is not something that one of the parents should do. This is not the right message to send to the child.

The child should make their bed until they leave home and move out some day. The child must have chores to do around the house. He or she lives there don’t they? Parents should not be treated like their child’s servants!

The helicopter mom was made to do things as a child, what she didn’t want to do. Their attitude as an adult is “I’ll make sure that my child won’t have to face and experience the challenges that I had to face when I was a child.” That approach is diametrically opposed to healthy parenting.

In my own life I had to face the consequences of my behavior and actions as a child. I thank my parents for that!

• If I didn’t do my homework, the consequences were that my parents wouldn’t let me go out and play until I finished my assignments.
• If I didn’t practice the piano, the consequences werethat my parents wouldn’t let me go out to play until I did.
• I had certain chores that I had to do around the house. If I didn’t do them, the consequences were that my parents wouldn’t let me go out and play until I finished them.
• There were consequences to my actions or the lack thereof. These things developed the Work Ethic in me.

Until my little sister was old enough to clear the dishes from the table, I had to do it.

I had to make my bed every morning from the time that I was 5 years old until I moved out. When I was eight or nine years old other chores were added to me, many of which I didn’t like doing!

We had two pear trees that dropped tons of pears onto the ground. Thousands of yellow jackets and bees swarmed the pears, but I had to remove those pears. I was afraid of getting stung, but I had to remove the pears anyway. (I never did get stung though.)

I had to paint the picket fence that ran around our backyard. I was paid a paltry sum – but I had to do it! It took me all summer to paint that fence!

All of this gave me a work ethic. A desire and a drive to get things done. To do things right and do them now whether I want to do them or not.

In our practice, we encourage parents to have their children make their own bed as soon as they get up in the morning, to clear the dishes from the table after dinner and put the dishes in the dishwasher. Further, after the dishwasher has ran its cycle and the dishes have cooled off, the child should put the dishes away.

They should also learn to wash their own clothes. Why not? That means taking them to the washing machine, separating the colored clothes from the whites, putting detergent in the washer, turning on the washing machine and then putting the clothes in the dryer after they are clean.

After the clothes are dry, they must fold them and put them away in their room. Or if the parents are not parenting correctly, they child can sit and watch TV while their mother does these things after working all day!

Gen Zers generally aren’t able to do much of anything for themselves.  At the age of seven I got a very small allowance for doing some simple chores around the house. I pulled weeds, took out the trash and mowed the grass with a heavy cast iron push lawn mower. (No gasoline lawn mower at our house!)  

I even made a trailer that I could tow behind my bike. I put my cast iron lawn mower on it and mowed the neighbor’s grass in order to earn money to buy model airplanes.

There must be consequences to a child’s actions. In the course of an interview with a twelve year old child’s parents, the parents told me how out of control their son was. They related that their son on one afternoon threw his large screen TV, his stereo and his computer out through his bedroom window. The consequences for his actions? His mother took him to Best Buy and bought him replacements that very afternoon. 

A young man’s parents came to see me about their son. They told me that their 31 year old son refused to get a job,  go to college and instead stayed in bed until noon.        

These well to do parents were both self-made.  They had struggled to achieve what they had accomplished in life.  That struggle is what made them who they were. What arose out of my interview with them was that they were determined that THEIR son would not have to struggle as they did in life! What they failed to understand was that their hard work and STRUGGLES were what made them successful!

Is it possible that parents could be enabling certain harmful or even destructive behaviors in their offspring? They will say, “I never meant to make them that way.” “I’ve always tried to make my children happy and give them what they wanted.” In many cases, those things were the things that the parents couldn’t and didn’t have as children themselves. “Could I have made my child a Gen Zer?” Most likely… yes!

And what is a Gen Zer child or young adult like anyway?

• Of the Gen Zers found in the USA, 64% are subscribers of Communist China’s TikTok. That’s 64%!
• Gen Zers are almost always online. A bare minimum of 6 hours per day
• They do not like “face-to-face” or in-person people situations. They don’t make good salespeople, public relations people, police officers, preachers, or anyone else who must interact with others.
• They experience feelings of being afraid.
• They experience feelings of anxiety, panic, and strangeness when absent from their media devices.
• They do not like to face the consequences of their actions.
• They are firm believers in the climate change hoax.
• Gen Zers are generally anti-commitment.
• Gen Zers lean towards socialism, liberalism, and communism.
• Gen Zers tend to want immediate gratification.
• Gen Zers for the most part, are afraid of heterosexual relationships. It’s called heteropessimism!
• They fear failing, so they most likely won’t even try!
• Gen Zers are afraid to buy a car or house. They feel safer taking Uber or renting an apartment. Gen Zers tend to be afraid of everything.

The Gen Z child is partially the result of the hovering parent or helicopter moms as we now call them. That is when the parent is attempting to take all of life’s challenges or potential hurt out of their child’s life. And whatever they do… they never want to make their child do anything that the child doesn’t want to do! That is not what real life is about.

We also have the parent that is too distracted by career or other activities to pay hardly any attention to the needs of their children.  There has to be a balance between being a hovering helicopter mom and having the time to properly raise the child!

We will discuss this aspect of child rearing further on in this article. Next week.

(A short course in destroying one’s brain)

Many believe that E-Cigarettes only contain harmless water vapor. This is not so. And that assumption can be a fatal assumption. The only use of vaping is to rebel, and that’s about it! E-Cigarettes and vaping are known as the rebellious syndrome

Most individuals, unless they are “contrarians” would not chose to go to work in a toxic environment that contained carcinogenic agents and other harmful chemicals, yet they willingly introduce the solvents, oils and incredibly harmful substances that drop deep into the lungs. And once they are there… they are there. Let’s take a look at what is found in an e-cigarette. Actually even the e-cigarettes that claim to be free of nicotine, contain nicotine!

If the following poisons and carcinogenic agents were in the air or drinking water at their workplace, the individual would complain and refuse to work at that job.  Here is what is found in vaping/e-cigarettes:

• Propylene glycol – found in antifreeze and paint solvent. It is toxic to cells.
• Acrolein – a herbicide used to kill weeds that will cause irreversible lung damage.
• Nicotine – an addictive poison that retards adolescent brain development.
• Carcinogenetic agents – depending on the studies one reads there are from 2000 to 5000 carcinogens in e-cigarettes.
• Diacetyl – a chemical that causes bronchiolitis obliterans.
• Diethylene glycol – a toxic chemical used in antifreeze. Fatal when swallowed. It says that on the label of every jug of antifreeze. It tastes sweet, that’s why dogs like to lick it off the garage floor. The dog will then die.
• Heavy metals such as nickel, tin, lead.
• Cadmium – a toxic metal that causes breathing problems and fatal disease.
• Benzene – a volatile organic compound that is produced by internal combustion engines and found in the exhaust.
• Formaldehyde – a poison that causes serious cognitive defect. It also causes lung and heart disease. It is used to embalm corpses and is so strong that the mortician must wear heavy rubber gloves or it will be absorbed right through the skin!!!

What do the demographics of those that vape tell us?

• They are likely to be under the age of 29 years.
• They most likely are not college or trade school educated.
• Their household income is generally $38,000 a year or less.
• They are most likely heavy users of alcohol.
• A Yale study shows that those that vape while using alcohol have lower motor skills despite not feeling drunk.

Young adults that are rebellious and want to vape should be rebellious now before their brain’s gray matter is replaced by white brain matter that is dead brain tissue. This is also known as “soft brain”. This is not good!!!

Here is an unfortunate yet interesting fact. Despite all of the evidence to the contrary – 79%… that’s 79% of those that vape, feel safe when vaping. Read on! Possibly they have no interest in allowing themselves to be educated to the downside of e-cigarettes and vaping. And The FDA has not found any… that’s any… e-cigarette to be safe.

Surprisingly, the risks of inhaling secondhand e-cigarette emissions which contain the deadly ultrafine particles and the flavorings (such as Diacetyl) that is added to make vaping taste better, is as deadly as vaping itself. And something to think about socializing with and hanging around those that Vape is not safe as it contains the same level of risks as actually vaping does.

As of this writing, there have been no published studies showing a correlation between vaping and nose rings studs and eyebrow studs. We will keep you posted!

Dr. Bob Crow, Ph.D.

Dr. Crow is a behavioral scientist and board certified hypnotherapist in Atlanta Georgia at the Atlanta Center for Behavioral Change.

People come into come into my office complaining about “these trying times”. I think that they must hear that from television. I’ve been around long enough to have experienced depression, recessions, wars, police actions, epidemics, riots and what have you. It seems to me that the generations that experienced those things just kept their head down and lived and worked instead of complaining about “these trying times”.

An individual came into my office that had been referred to me by several clients that I had previously worked with. I have a program that we call Reinventing Yourself. I asked him “what had brought him into the Atlanta Center for Behavioral Change?”  He told me that “he was burned out.” I told him “If you are already burned out, I will not be able to help you.” He said, “and then he named three individuals that I had worked with, they said that you helped them.” I said “but those individuals that you named didn’t tell me that they were burned out.” “Burned out is past tense and there is nothing that we can do to fix the past”.

“Now if you are only scorched, then through the power of hypnotherapy you will be able to make the needed permanent behavioral changes that will give you a richer, more successful and fuller life!” He said “I guess then that I am only scorched!!!”  

We discussed the goals in his life and then we worked on them through hypnotherapy. It turned out that as many others I’ve worked with, he had had a rough childhood, followed by a betrayal by his first wife. We have been working together for several months and through the power of hypnosis he has achieved many of his goals. Remember hypnosis is a process – we can’t zap someone, but we can enable them to make permanent behavioral change.

He now sees himself as the man that he wants to be. That’s big because we can’t perform in a way that’s inconsistent with how we see ourselves!  

Dr. Bob Crow, Ph.D.                                                                  

Atlanta Center for Behavioral Change

It’s your choice whether you dress for business like you are in business, or like you are a contestant on American Idol or on Entertainment Tonight. You might consider that you could be doing harm to yourself because of how others perceive you. It is an undisputable fact in human behavior that, one cannot perform in a manner that is inconsistent with how one sees themselves. In other words, if you dress casual, you will not only see yourself as casual, but you will perform in a casual manner.
How you dress impacts on how others see you and how you see yourself! If you’re a plumber it makes sense to dress like a plumber. That works out okay for everyone. But if one is a business person and one dresses like a plumber – management, your colleagues and your customers will see you as a plumber.
To be a great actor, one must “get into” their role. The actor must see them self as the character they’re playing. Charlie Sheen makes the news for his off camera behavior. Charlie Sheen is known for portraying a certain type of character, but off the screen, Charlie continues to play those characters in his personal life. The line blurs with Charlie in his mind between acting and how he lives his life. There isn’t any difference.
A thirty seven year old man came to see me at my hypnotherapy practice in Atlanta. He wanted an important position in his company. He just couldn’t understand why he and his ideas weren’t being taken seriously by the senior management . I asked him “what kind of work do you do.” Are you an engineer or a technician?” I was surprised when he informed me that he was in sales but he wanted to be a liaison between his company and “C” level executives with his company’s clients.
I asked him “is today your day off?” He replied he had come from work and was returning to his office. I asked him “is the way you’re dressed today your typical work attire?” He replied “Is there something wrong with it?” I asked him why at the age of thirty seven; he wore his hair in a spike hair do with a hint of fire engine red coloring on one side, sneakers, jeans and a golf shirt. He said” he had the right to dress however he wanted.” I agreed that he did have this right, but his appearance was such, that he looked like he should be working on his company’s loading dock not the executive suites. “If the CEO of your company doesn’t dress the way you do for work, why should you?” He responded that “he wanted to be cool.” He was clueless as to how to dress for business. Why would management want to trust his judgment with their clients when his judgment showed he didn’t know how to dress for business? He did not want to look the part, and since he was unwilling to change… he never got the promotion. He did get to continue making his statement, whatever that was, to the world though.
Another man of about forty two years of age, wanted to “change the direction of his life.” He was dressed very casually and had a scraggily Scooby Doo beard. He slumped in the chair and I asked him “in what way do you want to change your life?” He replied “I want something in management in my company and I would like to date sophisticated women.” I advised him “try dressing for business and you’ll notice a marked difference in how management treats you and also in your social performance.”
Performance is based on how people see themselves. When they see themselves as casual, they perform in a casual manner. Most people when they relax wear casual clothing. Again… one cannot perform in a manner that is inconsistent with how one sees themselves.
Does a man that’s between jobs, and sits around in his undershirt, shorts, a three day beard and flip flops see himself as a powerful man in business or someone that’s unemployed?
Haven’t you noticed that man or woman that is impeccably groomed and appropriately attired for their career and position, is also always on time, is also well organized, well spoken and in control of themselves?
If one’s results in business and sales are less than one desires, one might consider re inventing themselves, not just in how they dress, but in life. If that is the case, give me a call and we will help you with all of the components that you will need to succeed!

Many thoughts run through an individual’s mind every day. We call these thoughts – self talk. In fact studies indicate that we all experience 50 to 60 thousand of these thoughts or self talks per day. Studies indicate that 80% of these thoughts are negative. When we’re worried, when sales are off, when we’re fearful or full of doubt, these negative self talk conversations are destructive. Negative self talk is an assault on an individual, and they overwhelm one and do not enable one to be productive. It robs an individual of confidence, self assuredness and belief in one’s self. It depresses and paralyzes. It causes one to waste time in unproductive “busy work”.

This negative self talk will further depress sales. Some of the defeating self talk is:

• What if I can’t pay my bills?
• What if I’ve lost the ability to close business?
• What if I get fired?

And… the list goes on and on. My name is Bob Crow. I’m a behavioral therapist. In fact I’m a hypnotist. I’m board certified in both medical and clinical hypnotherapy and I’ve been working with salespeople to improve their performance in sales and thus their income for over 25 years.

You’ve read the positive books. You’ve listened to the positive tapes. You’ve gone and heard the great speakers, you’ve memorized the slick slogans and clever closes. Yet here you are today. Why hasn’t all of that positive input had long term improvement?

It’s because the tapes, books and speeches are processed in the conscious mind. But… and this is a biggie – no one can make permanent behavioral change in the conscious mind. Period! Our personality, our habits, our moods, our memory banks are located in the subconscious mind. Our habits and when and how we do things are located in our cognitive maps and they are located in subconscious mind. And… the only way that we can access the subconscious mind deliberately is through hypnosis. As hypnosis is the bridge to the subconscious mind!

In hypnosis, we enable an individual to convert negative self talk to positive self talk which yields greatly improved performance. If you want to perform better and to excel, call me Bob Crow, for a consultation at 404.277.1827. You have nothing to lose but your negative self talk.

Individuals come to see me to overcome addictions, alcoholism, anger, anxiety, confidence, Crohn’s Disease and IBS, marriage counseling, PTSD, sales, career and sports performance, sleep disorders, and the list goes on – but an incredibly large percentage of them come for permanent weight loss. And… we have great success in our permanent weight loss program.

Our program for permanent weight loss has three phases and in order to achieve permanent weight loss – all three phases must be followed! One or even two won’t do it. For permanent weight loss the program must be completed.

First the individual finishes the weight loss phase. After the desired weight loss achieved – one must move into the re feeding phase. Re feeding is followed by life time maintenance. This is continuing and practicing the true behavioral changes that were accomplished during the weight loss and re feeding parts of our program.

Conventional weight loss programs fail because there is no permanent behavioral change. I hear popular radio personalities once a year, year after year extolling the virtues of this or that program. But… if those programs really worked, why do they gain their weight back each year?

One cannot continue with the same eating habits and patterns that made them heavy in the first place if they want their weight loss to be permanent, but almost all folks want to! Crazy isn’t it? If behaving a certain way towards food makes one heavy – why return to it? But with conventional diets there is no tool that enables permanent behavioral change!

Our program enables one to change their addictions to foods with the power of the subconscious mind through hypnosis. The only way that anyone can make permanent behavioral change in their eating habits is by altering the way that they relate with food in the cognitive maps of their subconscious mind.

Call me – Bob Crow at 404.277.1827 for a complimentary consultation.