There is a personality disorder that is called disconnect. It manifests itself in several ways. In the extreme, we have a Columbine or a Jeffery Dalmer. Those people had no regard for the enormous damage and hurt that they were perpetrating upon others. They were disconnected and had lost their moral compass. Those that exhibit these extreme characteristics are sociopaths. For the purposes of this chapter, we will discuss the less extreme, and more common, but still unacceptable types of disconnect.

One form of disconnect, is the person that misses appointments without cancelling. This is off the chart rude! Typically this person invents some emergency lie to cover up their “blowing the meeting off.” The reason that disconnect describes this person is that they are unable to comprehend that their absence will be noticed! Hello! We’re sitting here waiting for you! The program that houses their concept of consequences is under developed or corrupt. It should be uninstalled and an update loaded.

Another person that exhibits disconnect symptoms and poor manners as well, is one that’s chronically late. They have no grasp of the concept and consideration that others were on time and waiting for them! They are disconnected from the consequences of how their actions impact others. This person is also unorganized. They generally show disconnect in all parts of their lives including their personal relationships. Their files and belonging are never in order. They can’t find important papers or notes. This indicates that they were already late when the left their office – not after. Otherwise they would be neat and have their notes at their finger tips. Usually this person blames their tardiness on traffic. But traffic problems are not a sometime thing, they are generally always present, a part of life that can and will be overcome by leaving 15 minutes early!

Disconnect is further evidenced with procrastination, missed deadlines and the avoidance of action. It brings to mind, Parkinson’s Fourth Law which states: work shrinks or expands to fill the time allotted to it. A report is due, yet the individual sits on the internet or watches television and wastes irreplaceable time. This individual will use every minute and more of the time allotted for the project. Disconnect sabotages one’s success and personal and business relationships. A person suffering from disconnect is unreliable, can’t be counted on and is never a high performer. They often exemplify the Peter Principal: which states that one is promoted to their first level of incompetence!

A person suffering from disconnect is clueless and uncaring about the inconvenience that they’ve caused others. A person suffering from disconnect doesn’t even give others the common courtesy of returning phone calls or emails. Hello! Somebody out there is expecting to hear back from you, and when they don’t – the only opinion that they CAN form will be negative!

Fortunately, disconnect and the collateral damage that it causes can be remedied through hypnosis and hypnotherapy. That individual needs to make behavioral change, and even though they make resolutions to do so, those resolutions that they are attempting to keep, are being made in the conscious mind. But behavioral change can’t be made in the conscious mind, only in the subconscious. This disconnect behavior resides in the subconscious and therefore you must reprogram the subconscious mind. The only way to access the subconscious deliberately to reprogram it, is through hypnosis. Hypnosis is the bridge to the subconscious. This debilitating problem can’t be fixed by willpower and discipline alone. This individual that has functioned in an absent minded and thoughtlessness manner needs permanent behavioral change. And, permanent behavioral change cannot be made in the conscious mind, only the subconscious.

If you desire to have a richer, a fuller and more rewarding life – one key is to connect – not disconnect! You are also encouraged to read my chapter entitled Mental Fibrillation.

If you feel that disconnect has been sabotaging your life, call Bob Crow at 404.277.1827 for a complimentary consultation. We will discuss it and how you can move beyond it.

Bob Crow is a behavioral therapist board certified in clinical and medical hypnotherapy. He practices in Atlanta Georgia working with those wishing to overcome stress, panic, phobias, procrastination and fears. With those that wish to perform better in sports, sales, public speaking, to stop smoking, to lose weight permanently, to quit sabotaging relationships and any other area of behavioral change that would make life more enjoyable.

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